Saturday, June 30, 2007
Things that make you go hmm...
There is no link in google for "what crazy women think about. Sorry...
1) When Ben was around 4 years old, why did he always lay on the same spot on the floor when we went to K-Mart? As I remember, he'd always lay on the same spot and have a little fit. Was there a noise, was it the lighting, did it happen once by accident, but therefore have to be repeated because "that's what we do here in K-Mart" (replaying the tape...)
I've always wondered.
2) When Ben had a good time, instead of "do it again" a few times he said "Go backwards!". I always figured he was rewinding the tape in his mind to "replay" the event. Being a visual thinker, it makes sense. Hmm...
3) Is Ben's "oppositionality" a by-product of his early poor parenting? We didn't understand he didn't understand us, so we used to nail him to get him to do what we wanted. Did he learn you save your sense of self by doing the opposite of what you are asked? (He's not that bad at all now, really, but we used to say, "Ben, DON'T put away the dishes"...and the little shit would start putting them away, even though he was fully aware and a little peeved we had tricked him. He KNEW his own compulsions.)
If we had been more aware and accepting, would he have developed an oppositional stance? Hmm...
4)Do autistics attach a negative emotional response to places that is unchanging? Although he will do it if asked, he prefers not to go to Wal-Mart because we have often had emotional tussles there.
Why am I developing an aversion to Wal-Mart, and only go when the money saved is paramoount? Hmm...
5) Why is it when I hear about some genius actually "suffering" from Asperger's or some sort of "LD", or of someone who is/was possibly a member of this exclusive club, I'm not surprised?
That Nobel Prize guy recently in the news (forgive spelling)
Leonardo Da Vinci
G.K. Chesterton (went to a brain doctor at age 9 because they thought he was "slow")
Thomas Alva Edison (too scattered to learn)
Albert Einstein (sister says he was "echolalic", or repeated phrased under his breath)
That "Virgin Records"/air/mobile guy
Jonathon Mooney ( The Short Bus...more later...)
Samuel Clemmens (Mark Twain)
Ivar Lovaas (my own guess..a rich irony, eh?...Somebody ought to try to beat it out of him...)
What do they all have in common? They all thought for themselves and changed the area where they found their niche. Some changed the world!
6) Could Aspergers, LD, Autism, become the new "disease" du- jour? (In particular to Kristina's post, it used to piss me off when they'd say a killer was "dind of a quiet guy" because I was "kind of a quiet girl", and I felt all of us "kind of quiet people" were suspect, just like blacks, the poor, Mexicans...we all were inherently suspect because of the group we belonged to...)here. Hmm..
7) NT's can show love "in their eyes". Why does it seem to me that autistics have to be shown love and show love "with their bodies". When Ben was four months old I told the pediatrician that he wasn't bonded to me because he never looked at me (and he never did until he was 2.5 years). She implied I was crazy because she had seen "failure to thrive" and said, "Look at the way he clings to you!!! When Ben feels he does something wrong, he always wants a hug to know that he is forgiven. He "feels" forgiveness through physical bonding, and always has.
AND, LAST, BUT NOT LEAST (You smart-butts quit clapping!)
8) Why does anxiety seem to be such a part of autism?
Posted by Usethebrains Godgiveyou at 6/30/2007 07:36:00 AM